Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability; For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness

Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability; For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness

by Miriam Kaufman,M.D., Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette

For everyone, men and women of all ages and sexual identities, this book covers the span of disabilities with the overall message: there is no “right way” to have sex. Individuals need to discover what 'sex' is for them and give themselves permission to consider anything as a sexual experience. (Library Journal)

The authors discuss “everything you need to know to create a sex life that works for you: Building a positive sexual self-image; Sexual positions to minimize stress and maximize pleasure; How to deal with fatigue, pain, and spasms during sex; Adapting sex toys to make them work for you; How to discuss sex with physicians and other health care providers.” It also contains an extensive collection of sex and disability resources available in books, websites,and organizations.

The book begins with a chapter naming, and refuting the most common myths about sex and disability:

Myth #1 People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are not sexual.

Myth #2 People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are not desirable.

Myth #3 Sex must be spontaneous.

Myth #4 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses can't have “real” sex.

Myth #5 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses are pathetic choices for partners.

Myth #6 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses have more important things than sex to worry about.

Myth #7 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses are not sexually adventurous.

Myth # 8 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses who have sex are perverts.

Myth #9 We all get what we deserve, and we can always do more to help ourselves.

Myth #10 People living in institutions shouldn't have sex.

Myth #11 Sex is private.

Myth #12 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses don't get sexually assaulted.

Myth #13 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses don't need sex education.

Myth #14 People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses are unnatural.

A Fairy Godmother note about Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: This is a a great book about sex, period! It is informative, supportive, insightful and the authors have done a service, and given a gift, in writing this book.

Pages/Cover: 345 pages, Paperback

Book dimensions: 9” x 6”